i was trying to decide what to wear for a date.
it was a super hot sticky hot sweaty hot summer day.
did i say it was hot?
he lived hours away
but as luck would have it
he was doing business 30 minutes away.
he asked could he take me to lunch before his gig began?
we met in a neutral location
in a park actually.
drove his mothers car
to a local taco place
and brought it all back to a shaded picnic table
at the park.
he was wearing a rock concert t -shirt
with a very loud hawaiian shirt over that unbuttoned
his hair style was circa ’80′s
he was chewing a double dose of banana bubble gum
like a serious wad of yellow.
he was missing teeth.
all said, he was very easy to be with conversationally
I had a nice time.
the timer on his phone bleeped
and he was off to his work function.
he asked to see me the following day for lunch.
the following day our time together was short
he ended up getting food poisoning.
he was still chewing more of that gum.
what i noticed in speaking with him
is that he lived for his past
friends, the town he lived in, where he grew up in etc
and that he spoke a LOT about his daughter
now an adult, and not living nearby.
and of all things he spoke a lot about his ex wife.
i just got a sense of some strong co-dependence
cruising his FB profile
that was exactly the case
his ex wife and he hung out.
FB also shared a rather bizarre even sick sense of humor.
like not the kindof thing that tickled my funny bone.
as it would happen he wrote me a polite thank you note
but no thank you.
he also said he didn’t have time for me.
i felt a sigh of relief
who writes dear john thank you notes??
some time later
i got a call from him
we spoke of many things
one of which was him sharing that he had just completed a bunch of dental work.
perhaps that was the need for the gum wad??
he then told me with great affection ALL the things he enjoyed about me, i was flattered of course and he was rather enthusiastic.
he then blurted that he loved me.
he was totally totally drunk.
The call ended.
i have not heard from him since.
I would have said his instincts regarding no thank you were probably best.
i do not make this stuff up.